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On Life and Love

I had a wonderful opportunity to meet autumnsshadow's new primary partner the other night over dinner. Since I haven't talked about my love life here in quite some time I think I will give a synopsis, folks do tend to love that around these parts. Back in the early nineties when I was in junior high, I placed an ad for pen pals in a national magazine (using the handle "Glass Spider"), looking for sad little goth souls to write to. That's where I found Elijah initially. We wrote for some time, snailmail, and I fantasized about having a sexy out of town boyfriend and it kept me going in that small town thirteen-year-old way. We soon moved on to real life teenage experiences and stopped corresponding, but found one another on the internet about five years ago. We were thrilled to discover we were both living polyamorous lifestyles with primary significant others, and our worlds collided intensely and passionately for a few years. We traveled together and became close as one another's OSO's (other significant others). Over a year ago now, we stopped seeing so much of one another, primarily because I became distant as I fought my existential crises and depression and didn't have the energy to go out as much as I ought, and I'm embarrassed by how unresponsive I was during that time when he reached out to be supportive and supported. At any rate, we both spent time focusing on ourselves for a while and have only reconnected recently, which has been great. Since the time that his life has split from his primary partner of over a decade and fallen head over heels for a clever girl from Colarado, catalyticdragon. She's moving here to live with him in his new abode, and I was so excited to meet her the other night, and had high hopes that she would be awesome and I wouldn't worry about him and all. She's neato (phew!), and I'm excited to get to know her better once she moves into their new place next month. It is invigorating and inspirational to see people my own age still able to tap the intensity of New Relationship Energy and act so smitten and squiffy, and their adoration for one another was simply contagious and made me giggle and flutter a bit just being peripheral to it. It's really one of my favorite things about polyamory, to be able to share in that glow that comes from watching people fall for one another! I know he's going to spend most of his energy cultivating their connection in the months to come, but it seems there is plenty of room for me to still be present in some capacity, and that makes me happy. :)

In my home life it seems Mattalyst and I have been some sort of item for around seven years at this point, which is fucking crazy. We have had a lot of ups and downs in that time but he's my best friend in the world and he makes me laugh every day, even when we're both depressed and feeling crappy about work or our subpar social lives. I can't speak for him, but think if I had a funny little dog and he had a kitty, and if I could be a better roommate with the cleaning, etc., we might be the happiest we've ever been. I look forward to what happens next.

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mom_o_cass
Jul. 10th, 2008 02:34 pm (UTC)
this is a cool story :)
i'm happy that it worked out well for your friend and thanks for sharing.
i was a snail mail pen pal for many many years, and placed an add or two out there in i think it was 'Star Hits' that always had Morrissey and Robert Smith on it. i had such a good time with that and not only met one of my great loves that way, but my oldest and dearest friend.

yay!
darmorazzini
Jul. 10th, 2008 08:25 pm (UTC)
Great post! It has been far too long since you posted about your love life and plus I like learning about your lifestyle.

There is always room for Delilah!
catalyticdragon
Jul. 11th, 2008 03:34 pm (UTC)
Indeed, there is always room for Deliah! (Not saying that you're, ya know, Jello. =P )

It was so wonderful to meet you, too. I've got a long post brewing about my trip as a whole but it was fantastic to get to meet someone as charming and interesting as you, who is obviously still important to Elijah and with whom I have a feeling I will get along just spiffingly.

I can't wait to run with you! Not that I'm expecting a workout to be Insta-Bond or anything, I'm just looking forward to it.

Cheers!
cutieyum
Jul. 11th, 2008 05:18 pm (UTC)
You and Mattalyst are a great couple :)

One of the great pleasures of my life is seeing others that I love, grow. Having friends questioning themselves, going crazy for a while, and coming out the other side, more 'themselves' and creating new bonds, is exciting.

I am glad to read that you and autumsshadow are reconnecting and that you are sharing in his new 'glow.' It is good to renew relationships with those who have shared a large chuck of our lives.
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